When we are in an intimate relationship and feel vulnerable, defensive or shameful, usually it’s our old stuff that is being triggered — patterns of interaction that we developed with our parents. When we are young, we learn to act and respond in ways that...
Recently, I attended a six-day Zen meditation retreat, or sesshin in Japanese, which included the celebration of Rohatsu on December 8, the day that Siddhartha Gautama, the Buddha, came to his great enlightenment. As a couple therapist and student of attachment theory, I cannot deny...
PACT was developed by Stan Tatkin, it stands for: the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy. Before I began to study PACT, I didn’t work with couples. I worked only with individuals and in groups. Also, when I attended the PACT level I training, I had...
“I have found one reliable remedy for the relief of recurrent discomfort and unhappiness. I have prescribed it for myself and for many other people, with excellent results. It is regular mindfulness practice.” — Jan Chozen Bays, MD Mindfulness means being aware of the present...