1) We start with scheduling a free 20-minute consultation. We'll discuss your specific situation and relationship goals to determine how we can best support you.

2) Attend the initial session, which is usually 90 minutes. Here we continue to understand the patterns and dynamics between the two of you. 

When we understand, we name the negative patterns and cycles, understand your motivation, and help you out of it. 

We also help you understand where certain reflexes that keep you both stuck originate. Usually, these reflexes come up in times of stress, and they are modeled behaviors or adaptations made while growing up.

Then we work together on a plan for you two to spend less time disconnected. We help both of you practice repairing when needed and remind you to be intentional about maintaining your connection.

One of our favorite relationship quotes: 

"Intimacy is not something you have, it's something you do." – Terry Real

3) Schedule subsequent appointments. Here we check in on whether your negative patterns and cycles are subsiding. We continue to encourage you to practice new ways of relating to one another and yourselves. 

We recommend couples attend 8 follow-up sessions after the initial appointment because strong relationships aren’t one-time fixes — they’re maintained like physical health.

We use the Gottman Fondness & Admiration tool in our app to remind both of you to notice what’s good, along with other tools to help you practice connection and intimacy.

If you feel you need more intensive couples therapy, visit our couples intensive page.