Mansplaining is when you assume superiority over your partner. As a therapist , I’ve seen it look like a condescending CEO addressing a lower-level employee, or a condescending father addressing his daughter. When someone mansplains, their attitude is to solve differences by proving how they’re...
Most people have experienced trauma in their life. Unfortunately, this trauma can have a direct impact on relationships. It can make couples “stuck” and unable to solve their issues. As the symptoms of trauma manifest in defenses that were adaptive then, but maladaptive now. Such...
I often work with males who have not be in touch with their feelings. This could be that they grew up in a home where feelings were not explored and talked about much. And so, they didn’t really learn to connect via vulnerability. Vulnerability is...
For some of us, the idea of setting a boundary equates to being mean. But the thing is, setting boundaries and limits with people, including with ourselves, is the nicest thing we can do. Setting a boundary is teaching someone how you’d like to be...
Active listening is paying attention on purpose to what your partner is saying. It’s dropping your inner-rebuttal and response to just listen, and then convey back the essence of what you heard without your editorial. So, it’s listening and then conveying that you heard your...
Do you look at friends and their relationships that seem perfect? Do you think they have no problems, and you wish you had the same thing with your partner? The truth is no relationship is perfect. They can sometimes look perfect from the outside but...