What are some signs that you and your partner should go to couples therapy? If you two don’t fight well and get mean and disrespectful. Or, if you two have a prolonged silent treatment (a few days) after a fight. As a couples therapist ,...
If there currently isn’t much sex in your relationship, first you’re not alone. Kara Hoppe, who I interviewed on my podcast , talked about how couples often find themselves in “the winter” regarding their sex life – especially after birth of their first kid. The...
The biggest Red Flag that means divorce is on the horizon is when one partner has withdrawn – they just communicate on a surface level as if in a roommate or co-parent situation. This is a red flag especially if the withdrawn partner has said...
Mansplaining is when you assume superiority over your partner. As a therapist , I’ve seen it look like a condescending CEO addressing a lower-level employee, or a condescending father addressing his daughter. When someone mansplains, their attitude is to solve differences by proving how they’re...
Most people have experienced trauma in their life. Unfortunately, this trauma can have a direct impact on relationships. It can make couples “stuck” and unable to solve their issues. As the symptoms of trauma manifest in defenses that were adaptive then, but maladaptive now. Such...
I often work with males who have not be in touch with their feelings. This could be that they grew up in a home where feelings were not explored and talked about much. And so, they didn’t really learn to connect via vulnerability. Vulnerability is...