The biggest Red Flag that means divorce is on the horizon is when one partner has withdrawn – they just communicate on a surface level as if in a roommate or co-parent situation. This is a red flag especially if the withdrawn partner has said...
Mansplaining is when you assume superiority over your partner. As a therapist , I’ve seen it look like a condescending CEO addressing a lower-level employee, or a condescending father addressing his daughter. When someone mansplains, their attitude is to solve differences by proving how they’re...
I often work with males who have not be in touch with their feelings. This could be that they grew up in a home where feelings were not explored and talked about much. And so, they didn’t really learn to connect via vulnerability. Vulnerability is...
For some of us, the idea of setting a boundary equates to being mean. But the thing is, setting boundaries and limits with people, including with ourselves, is the nicest thing we can do. Setting a boundary is teaching someone how you’d like to be...
Active listening is paying attention on purpose to what your partner is saying. It’s dropping your inner-rebuttal and response to just listen, and then convey back the essence of what you heard without your editorial. So, it’s listening and then conveying that you heard your...
Are you having trouble in your relationship? If so, chances are that the adaptive child part of you is running your relationship a lot of the time. What is the adaptive child part of you? It’s the part of you that’s not interested in being...