Often, couples come to marriage counseling practice because they fight too much. This is usually because they can’t talk to each other without one or both partners becoming angry or defensive. Most likely, this has been going on for a while. A couple of reasons...
When hurt turns into retaliation, couples can quickly get stuck in a painful cycle of disconnection. This blog explores why “getting even” never creates closeness, how retaliation develops, and what to do instead when anger is protecting deeper hurt.
If you feel bad for cheating, that means you are a good person. It would be worrisome if you didn’t.
Marriage is a three-legged race—if one person pulls, both struggle. This post explains why control backfires, what power-with truly looks like, and how repair helps couples move forward together.
The first answer to this question is that men often haven’t been taught other modes of expression. Author and speaker Terry Real writes that our society teaches men that they can have two emotions: anger and lust. This doesn’t give men much to work with.
Conflict isn't the problem — intensity is. Learn practical communication tools for couples: self-regulation, the Feedback Wheel, emotional intelligence, and more.